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Thursday 18 February 2010

Clean up your YOU image!


Have you checked yourself out lately? How do you see yourself? How do you look at yourself? Do you look at yourself with approval, what about with admiration. Do you like what you see? These questions can be tough to hear and hard to answer.

This is about the most personally thought-provoking question anyone can ask: "How do I see myself?" How we see ourselves dictates how we approach life, our relationships, our jobs, our families, and comprehensively our lives--all to a very large extent. We reflect how we feel about ourselves directly onto our relationships with others; yes, it's true!

And the answer to this above question--if it lines up with the reality, that is, other people's perceptions--can be a key to inner happiness. In it we achieve congruence, and therefore peace.

The greatest disservice anyone can bring to themselves is to have an inaccurate self-image. Regarding our happiness, the alignment of our goals, dreams and desires with our actual abilities and capacities in achieving these should be obvious but it isn't to most people. No wonder there's so many disappointed people in life! Life never quite measures up to their lofty (but misaligned) self-images.

For instance, if someone sees themselves as a leader yet they don't act like a leader i.e. they don't realise much, if any, influence, they'll naturally become disappointed--the results regarding the outcomes of life need to be reconciled and any significant gap can only produce dissonance. When the image we produce for ourselves is inconsistent with what we experience in life we'll yearn for a better match.

Fact is fact and the cold hard facts of life are difficult to refute. Sooner or later the person who thinks they're especially gifted for the leadership role, for example, will discover that perhaps, in reality, they're not. Or at least they're not as far along the development curve as they'd like to be. It's a humbling truth.

The sooner denial is dealt with (as part of the normal process of grieving) the sooner the person can adapt their self-image to the manifest truth before them. Embracing the truth births a freeing foundation where both a stabilising peace and an emergent growth can commence simultaneously.

If an inaccurate self-image is a grievous missing-of-the-mark for one's life, surely an accurate self-image (in humility) is a great blessing.

This person is always seeking feedback, and more than that, they actually listen because they're fervently (even aggressively toward themselves) seeking to reach continual self-image alignment with other peoples' perceptions i.e. the evident reality.

How we see ourselves is huge in life. The better the alignment we have regarding our natural desires at good compared with our actual delivery in real terms, the happier and more blessed we'll actually be.

Should You Trust Your Gut Instincts?

Should you rely on your intuition by trusting your instincts? Going with your gut instinct may feel like the right decision to make, but are there other factors you should consider? Have you ever come to an intersection and you turned left, but felt you should have turned right? Then you realise your gut instinct was correct. Instinct is reactionary to certain stimuli. The animal kingdom shows us this in feeding habits, mating, and fighting. These are not things we learn, these are things we do. Unlike a reflex that is controlled via the nervous system, instincts come from the brain and are felt in your stomach.

These instincts are felt in your gut. When you are nervous you may feel nauseous, when you are in love you may feel butterflies in your stomach. Trusting your feelings is important when making decisions and will give you good advice. Think about making a first impression, the first time you meet someone you invoke an opinion about them, an instinct. When you hire a contractor like an electrician, a painter or a housekeeper, you get a gut feeling about the person you will be inviting into your home. This advice from your inner-self is as reliable as reading an advertisement.

Tap into this natural mechanism by breathing deeply and letting your stomach relax. Dr. Christiane Northrup, author of Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom, says, "You can't tell what's going on if your belly is always hard as a rock and flat. You've got to have your belly rounded a little bit to be in touch with your gut instincts." Yeah - an excuse to NOT do sit-ups!

Using your instincts as a tool, with all other available information will make you more successful negotiating the choices and decisions we are faced with every day. However, do not rely entirely on that gut feeling. Allowing your instincts alone to make your decisions is a bad idea. When making important decisions it is critical that you take the necessary time and access every available resource to weigh the pros and cons. The more important the outcome, the less you should rely on your instinct. This explains why making hasty decisions are often wrong. Be aware that your instinct is worth listening to, and take time making life's more important decisions. When you seem to be at an impasse and are considering using your instincts - go with what your gut tells you to do, especially if it just feels "right".

Be the Best!


In a world that demands instant gratification and instant results, it can be difficult to pour yourself into everything that you do. The predominant culture of instant work and quick fixes can also encourage mediocrity, and with such a work atmosphere it can be difficult for anyone to even think of being their best. However, you can always be the exception to the rule: you can still be the best that you can be, and with a few tricks up your sleeve, you can find a way to be the best and allow others to follow your good example.

In the olden days, being the best meant doing well in school, getting A's every semester, getting into a great college, and then getting a great job that would spell great retirement and living off the interest that you invested. However, this measure of success and being the best also neglects the fact that you have to be happy with what you are doing.

As you might well know, there are many insanely rich people who are not happy with their lives, even if they have a lot of money to spend; and there are many people who live with just enough to live, but are very happy with their lives.

Keep this in mind as you try to find out how to be the best that you can be: there is no use running after dreams if you don't want to, and if you know that you can't be happy. The key is that you should be happy first, because no one else around you will be happy, and you certainly cannot make anyone happy, if you are not happy to begin with. This means that you will have to find a career that makes you happy, a career path that is sustainable and that you know will keep you happy in the long run.

However, you also have to remember that being happy does not only mean doing what you want to do. It's making other people happy as well. You may have heard that money isn't everything, but guess what - it can add to your happiness if you don't make it the be all and end all of your work. The reason that many people are unhappy with their careers is that they are working for the money, but they have no idea what to spend it on. Instead of working for the money, work toward something that you can buy with the money. For instance, if you are looking toward buying a house and a car, then put purpose in your work and work toward them. By driving yourself through a purpose, you give your work meaning - and you may find more incentives for being the best that you can be.

Another way that you can be the best that you can be is to balance your life.

The tendency of a lot of people is to go to extremes when they realize that they are not living their life well enough: if they are not spiritual enough, they will plunge headlong into a church and forget about everything else; if they do not have a hobby, they will take up a hobby immediately and not mind school, work, or family. Learn how to balance yourself: everything in life is important, and if you learn how to balance work, life, and family, you too will be happy, and you won't burn out as easily.

Moreover, remember that life is a constant learning experience. This means that you do not stop learning at school, and you have a lot of opportunities to improve yourself. Inquire at your local university or community college about classes that you can take up to improve your skills or add to your knowledge. After all, the world has changed a lot since you left school, and you may need to update your brain on the latest in your field. If you can't go back to school, inquire online and look for courses that might help you get reacquainted with your expertise.

With a lot of knowledge under your belt, you can be sure to advance yourself in your field and not get bored.

These are only a few tips that you may want to take into consideration as you start on your journey to being your best. There are still many different ways for you to improve your life, but the important thing is that you take care of yourself first, love yourself, improve yourself, and make sure that you are working at full capacity, and with a purpose. This way, your journey to being your best will truly lead to a happy ending.

By Natalie Fiset

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